Why does The Joy List exist?

Kiran Patel beautifully captured the story of The Joy List. Support him here.

Americans are lonely. The average person in the U.S. has only one close friend.  And to make things worse, 75% of people say that they're unsatisfied with their friendships. Religious gatherings are on the decline, but new ways to gather in community are hard to find. How do we fix this? 

Our mission is to reduce loneliness in the United States, starting with New York City. We do this by compiling events that encourage connection, vulnerability, and playfulness. The majority of our listings are cost accessible–– $30 or less–– and many are free. We give people the little nudge they need to get out of their comfort zone, and into an experience where they can make a new friend.

We lift up the work of other community organizers. We let people know that they're not alone in feeling lonely. And we prioritize getting off our devices, and into real-life connection. 

Want to help? Contact us.

What creates joy? 

We include events that create space for one or more of these experiences:

  • Connection: It can be scary to start a conversation with a stranger! That's why we love events that include intentional moments of connection. That could look like facilitated conversations, icebreakers to meet your neighbor, or tantric speed dating. (You weren't expecting that, were ya?)

  • Vulnerability: We believe that, when a group gets a little uncomfortable together, they leave a whole lot closer. That's why The Joy List promotes events that scooch people out of their comfort zone: sexual empowerment workshops, contact improv classes, eye gazing experiences, and more.

  • Playfulness: We celebrate any opportunity to let loose and get weird! This includes giant morning dance parties, improv in public spaces, and oodles of other wonderfulness.

Want to submit something yourself? Hell yeah! Let us know about your event here.

People Kinda Dig Us


Cannot love this enough. Give me all the stars to throw to this fantastic compendium of events, links, ideas, and general wonderful joyful spirit in every newsletter. They should had this out to new to NYC folks along with their first MTA card. A joy in every inbox.
— Rachel
I so appreciate the spirit of this newsletter. As a native New Yorker, I have had periods of loneliness where it is hard to meet like-minded people. Loneliness has been a painful struggle for me, but I am determined to get out there and organically meet like minded people.
— Tracy
It’s like The Skimm... but better.
— Renee

They're not the only ones! Check out more reader love here.